I can feel your pain all over again!
I think this might be what you are fighting with and if you are, it's a BIOTCH to remove, it is right behind the drivers head and might appear to be a metal bracket or attached to the bracket at the back of the head on that side.
Try to get a small screw driver under the black retainer on the connector and slide the connector OFF of the retainer. That's how I would do it if I had to do it again, because like you, I just couldn't see.
I think this might be what you are fighting with and if you are, it's a BIOTCH to remove, it is right behind the drivers head and might appear to be a metal bracket or attached to the bracket at the back of the head on that side.
Try to get a small screw driver under the black retainer on the connector and slide the connector OFF of the retainer. That's how I would do it if I had to do it again, because like you, I just couldn't see.